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North Carolina’s novel effort to compensate people who were sterilized under a widespread and decades-long eugenics program that stretched into the 1970s all but died in the State Senate on Wednesday.


Certainly, fiscal concerns were a factor in the Senate’s decision. If all of the 1,350 to 1,800 living victims came forward, the state could have been liable for about $90 million. But the actual cost was expected to be much less. So far, only 146 living victims have been verified, and an additional 200 requests were pending. The House bill included $11 million for the program.

Still, some senators argued that paying victims of what had been a legal program could lead to paying descendants of slaves or American Indians.

“If we do something like this, you open up the door to other things the state did in its history,” Senator Chris Carney, a Republican, told The Mooresville Tribune. “And some, I’m sure you’d agree, are worse than this.”

North Carolina Eugenics Compensation Program Shelved - NYTimes.com

That’s right. Let us be clear. The NC Senate is denying justice to women the state forcibly assaulted and violated because it might make you coloreds ask for your 40 acres and a mule. Just so you know that black female bodies are still paying the price for slavery. In 2012.

History, my ass.

(via anothergirlontheirt)

I dropped Mr. Carney a line about my concerns. You can do the same via TeamCarney2012@gmail.com. http://tressiemc.com/2012/06/22/nc-senate-denies-victims-of-states-eugenics-program-justice/.

Team,

Mr. Carney’s website quotes him as saying:

“I believe it is the job of an elected official to be a strong advocate for our communities, our district, and our state. My greatest satisfaction comes from making a positive difference for the people I represent.”

I find it difficult to reconcile that belief with his recent disavowal of the N.C. Eugenics program. Mr. Carney is quoted as saying that:

“If we do something like this, you open up the door to other things the state did in its history,” Senator Chris Carney, a Republican, told The Mooresville Tribune. “And some, I’m sure you’d agree, are worse than this.”

Whose interests, exactly, does Mr. Carney represent if not the women of his state (and mine; I’m still a voting North Carolinian) who were brutally victimized by the state?

It seems his concern is one about reparations which is an ideological issue. The current issue is about righting a contemporary crime, not a historical one. How can he consider living victims vestiges of history?

For a party who represents the sanctity of life as promulgated through your position on healthcare for women, it is a particularly odd choice. The women in this story were denied their right to protect life against their will. What penalty would Mr. Carney propose for an individual offender who visited that attack on a woman? Why should the state be held to a lower standard?

Try as I might I find it hard to find any other justification for Mr. Carney’s position but that the victims are not “his kind” of women. They are primarily poor and women of color. So, perhaps, Mr. Carney should make it clear in his statements that he advocates for certain communities, not all? Truth in advertising as it were.

I hope Mr. Carney roots out his motivation for this blatant disregard for the health, welfare, and rights of the members of the state he represents. In so doing I hope he eventually does the right thing. Unless and until he does I plan to remind him as frequently as I can that the victims of the N.C. eugenics program are not history. They are living, breathing women who deserve representation and justice.

(via anothergirlontheirt)

gonna do this. love it all

gonna do this. love it all

(Source: blackfashion, via anothergirlontheirt)

Dancing

Truly. I’m trying to end every night dancing before I step in to bed. Sure I might be a little sweaty, but I feel exhilarated and alive and happy after I dance.  And I make sure to dance as if those who are watching aren’t judging me.

Screw dancing alone. It isn’t as fun ;)

On Not Vanity

I’ve watch a lot of image centric tumblogs.  A lot of them post reply to reader messages publicly. I am honestly a bit taken aback by the amount of people asking, begging and pleading for these blogs to reblog pictures of them.  It makes me, honestly a bit uncomfortable.  Maybe it is just my western sentimentality but… no. No. I think it is not a good thing.

The Ices Factor

Ices is not vain.  While yes, she loves her fans. And yes, she likes to make herself feel pretty with make up and colored weaves etc, her videos are not, “hey everybody look at how hot I am”.  What drew me to her initially is she is just unapologetic-ally herself.  Her goal is to be the best Ices she can be, and that includes all those things to look pretty and dancing.  Now, maybe vanity comes in to it when she starts posting the videos, but she is never, at any point, begging people to watch her.  The videos seem more like an expression of self in a social space than a “let me give you guys what I think you want so you’ll tell me what I want to hear, which is that I am the best, and I’m beautiful, etc etc.”

What I mean by Not Vanity

When you are trying to be pretty, or happy, or feel good for yourself, and only yourself, that is Not Vanity.  When you are trying to be the best YOU you can be, that is not vanity.  When you start caring about how people will think of what you are doing you start teetering on vanity… and this is almost always coupled with negative feelings.  Shame, rejection, fear etc, all in YOURSELF!  That is wrong.  If you manage to let go of your vanity, and just be you, you’ll be a happier person. 

I know this is not 100% realistic. So really, what you need to do when you start heading towards vanity is check yourself and recenter. You will get nowhere looking only for the approval of others because in the end their approval is empty if you don’t love yourself first.

tabbythegreat:

jelliefabulous:

marfmellow:

LOVE YOUR BODY!

major belly love going on over here!

She got the right idea!

If you like you are perfect than you are!!!!

We should resign this blog to THIS chick. Hell’s yeah. She’s Ices-riffic

(Source: marfmellow, via thegreat-tab)

Flattery or fuckery?

Rule #1 of Ices Fabulousness: BE YOURSELF!

Apparently the fabulousness mantra is working.  I’d like to take a moment to point out thaty, copying/mimicing isn’t always flattery. Sometimes it is fuckery.

Web definitions
  • a brothel; sexual intercourse; nonsense; unfair or morally wrong action
en.wiktionary.org/wiki/fuckery

Still, seeing people attempt to emulate is, well, it can be fun.

American Apparel Refuses To Recognize Rightful Plus-Size Contest Winner As you may recall, American Apparel celebrated adding plus-size clothing to their stores by announcing a search for “booty-ful” models. The winner was supposed to be a woman who needs “a little extra wiggle room” and has a “fresh face and curvaceous bod.” Nancy Upton entered the contest, submitting photographs of herself eating chicken and bathing in ranch dressing. Her bio: “I’m a size 12. I just can’t stop eating.” Nancy’s irreverent take on the contest was inspired by the language American Apparel used: (via American Apparel Refuses To Recognize Rightful Plus-Size Contest Winner)

American Apparel Refuses To Recognize Rightful Plus-Size Contest Winner As you may recall, American Apparel celebrated adding plus-size clothing to their stores by announcing a search for “booty-ful” models. The winner was supposed to be a woman who needs “a little extra wiggle room” and has a “fresh face and curvaceous bod.” Nancy Upton entered the contest, submitting photographs of herself eating chicken and bathing in ranch dressing. Her bio: “I’m a size 12. I just can’t stop eating.” Nancy’s irreverent take on the contest was inspired by the language American Apparel used: (via American Apparel Refuses To Recognize Rightful Plus-Size Contest Winner)

Before and After.

I am wearing a belt today even though I don’t feel worthy. People whose stomachs don’t jiggle should wear belts. People who have sucked the fat off their arms deserve belts. People who haven’t let themselves go to shit deserve belts.

The problem is I love belts. Shiny, sparkly belts. Bright, colorful belts. Obi belts. Waistlets, beads, chains, crocodile, leather, pleather, serious, fun - belts are awesome!

So, I’m wearing the belt. But deep inside I remember looking like I used to look and I’m acutely aware that I no longer look that way.

Only…

I also remember being that girl 10 years ago. I also hated her. That’s why in that picture where I’m about as thin as I ever was or am capable of being I’d just removed the belt I so wanted to wear with that outfit.

In 10 years I don’t want to look at pictures of me now, sans belt (or shoes, or lipstick, or corset, or sparkles, or joy) and think,”what the fuck was I thinking?!!!”

So, I’m wearing the gotdamn belt.

Ices Approved

I entered American Apparel’s “plus-size model” contest as a joke—and won. But I want nothing to do with a company that’s wanted nothing to do with large women until now. (via Nancy Upton on Her American Apparel Plus-Size Photo Spoof - The Daily Beast)
This bitch is Ices bad.

I entered American Apparel’s “plus-size model” contest as a joke—and won. But I want nothing to do with a company that’s wanted nothing to do with large women until now. (via Nancy Upton on Her American Apparel Plus-Size Photo Spoof - The Daily Beast)

This bitch is Ices bad.

When PMS hits…

and if it hits bad? Resist the urge to kill/die. PMS is for the … the not me and the not yous. I mean, feel crappy. But roll with it. And know that underneath it all you are still your fabulous self and you will be back to normal in 5 days or less.  AND DON’T LET IT STOP YOU FROM MOVING, especially when that movement is forward.


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